Individual coaching
In Gestalt, change begins when you fully notice who you are right now. One-to-one coaching to hear the voices inside you, recognise what you need, and take a step that is right for you. In person in Istanbul or online via Zoom.
What might bring you here?
Your relationship with yourself
A quiet dissatisfaction when, on the surface, everything is fine. Being angry with yourself, being hard on yourself, not believing in yourself.
Relationships and conflict
Getting stuck in the same place with your partner, your child, your family, your manager or your business partner. That feeling of “why do people like this always find me?”
Times of transition
Leaving a job, changing career or country, divorce, becoming a parent, reaching midlife and menopause.
Loops I often see
When things get hard, there are behaviours we reach for again and again, even though they don't help us at all:
- Not admitting you're struggling, numbing yourself
- Listening to only one of your inner voices and getting trapped in patterns learned long ago
- Rushing into action, or giving up, before understanding what is really hard
- Seeing something clearly and still not acting on it
These were once our ways of adapting to life. In Gestalt we don't treat them as flaws to be fixed, but as old solutions waiting to be updated.
How we work together
- First sessionWe get to know each other. We talk about what brings you, what you need, and whether working together feels right for you.
- SessionsAlongside talking, we work with the body, with feelings and with whatever is happening in the moment. In Gestalt, what is here and now often says more than the stories of the past. Sometimes we use creative routes such as drawing, movement or role play; other ways of expressing yourself can open doors that words can't. And if you say “but I can't draw”, we'll scale it down to something you're comfortable with.
- Noticing and experimentingBetween sessions, you try out what you've noticed in small steps in your everyday life, and bring what happens to the next session.
- ReviewingEvery so often we look together at where we've got to, and shape the process accordingly.
Coaching or therapy?
I bring to my coaching the psychological understanding of my third year of Gestalt therapy training. Even so, I don't offer treatment, and as I don't have a degree in psychology, I don't call myself a therapist. I work with people who are managing their lives, and when I think it's needed, I refer clients on.
In this video (in Turkish) I explain the differences between coaching, therapy, counselling and mentoring:
